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The Most Pleasant People to Be Around Have This in Common

It’s not confidence, charm, or charisma

Press enter or click to view image iYou are at a gathering, and a family member touches you when you’re clearly not open to physical contact.

You’re sitting quietly during a party, and someone walks up and comes to poke you to get you out of your shell.

You are in a group of people and have no desire to partake in the conversation, but someone asks you the most polarizing question and now all eyes are on you.

I have countless examples of this, and I suspect you have too:

People cannot read the signals.

Not when they are clearly, verbally expressed, and even less when they’re implicit.

The way most people are disconnected from themselves can leak out and affect the people around them, too.

A recent interaction I had made me think about this, although this time it was a positive example of what happens when someone does have that awareness.

I was at a baby shower. I hadn’t seen some of the participants since university. A lot can change in fifteen years, and it’s nice to catch up on what’s happening in each other’s lives.............(paid article)..................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................

Responses

Why are you so easily shaken by a provocative question? You are sitting in a group of unconscious people and expecting them to behave with awareness — this is your mistake, not theirs. The crowd is always noisy, always blind, and it loves to drag down anyone who seeks silence. When they try to pull you out of your shell, it is not because they care, but because your quietness makes their inner noise uncomfortable. If you are truly rooted in your own being, no question can pierce you and no crowd can disturb you. You can simply look at them, smile, and remain a blank wall. Let them talk, let them look. Your silence should be so deep that their words simply dissolve in it without reaching your center.